Day 1: Identify Your Goals for the Challenge
Sit down with your partner and go over this month’s Love & Romance challenge. Determine if you want to tackle every day, or just pick and choose the challenges that are most meaningful to you. Some of this is also dependent on your schedule for the month and how busy you already are. Then determine what you hope the main takeaway will be. Is it to have more fun? Reconnect? Add more romance to your lives? By having the conversation now, you set yourself up for success and ensure that your partner is invested as well. Communication is always a good thing!
Day 2: Watch the Sunrise (or Sunset)
Get up early, grab some coffee and a warm blanket, and watch the sunrise together. Or, if mornings aren’t your thing, catch the sunset with a glass of wine instead. Either way, those quiet moments can be a great time to reconnect and reflect on the day ahead, or the moments that already happened!
Day 3: Challenge Each Other to a Board Game
Challenge your partner to a friendly competition of board games or cards. Raise the stakes by adding a wager to each round. Wagers can be serious (loser makes dinner for a week), fun (strip poker anyone?), or intimate (I’ll let you fill in the blank for this one)!
Day 4: Turn on Slow Music and Dance
Turn on a favorite song and slow dance to it. Pick a song that has special meaning to you as a couple – maybe a song from your wedding, or the first song you ever danced to (if you remember what it is!).
Day 5: Write Each Other a Love Letter
Take some time to put pen to paper and write your partner a love note. Actually write it out – no computers for this challenge! Share what you love about your relationship, a favorite memory, your hopes for the future – whatever you feel compelled to write! Not only is this a great opportunity to romance your partner, but the note you get in return can be something you cherish forever.
Day 6: Have a Picnic
This doesn’t have to be fancy and you don’t even have to leave the house (though you certainly can!). Build a fire in the fireplace, throw a blanket down, and eat dinner on the floor. Or, have a picnic in bed on top of the covers. If the weather is warm enough, go outside and have one in the yard. And, if you’re feeling more adventurous, you can take your picnic to go and find a local park or romantic spot. Make it special by bringing along a fancy dessert or a nice bottle of wine.
Day 7: Start and End the Day with a Kiss
No pecks and quick smooches either! Take some time to share a few intimate kisses to start and end your day. Leave them thinking of you when you part ways!
Day 8: Create a Vision Board
In last month’s
I really believe in the power of a vision board. Hubby and I do one every year, generally around the New Year, so we can see how our vision has changed (if it has) and where we want to go in the upcoming year. This can be a great exercise for transition times as well. A new marriage, a baby on the way, retirement – all are great opportunities to think about what your future could look like!
Day 9: Go on a Date
If you are able to, get out of the house and go on a date! Go somewhere new, like a restaurant you’ve never been to, or recreate your first date. Mix things up and grab brunch, rather than sticking to the more traditional dinner and a movie. Hit a local farmer’s market and pick up the makings for a picnic. Do something that allows you to relax and have fun as a couple. There are tons of ideas on Pinterest and The Dating Divas have a lot of creative dates you can check out as well!
If you have kids and no sitter, do something to make an evening in extra special. Put the kids to bed early and splurge a bit on dinner. Maybe a nice steak, a lobster tail, or whatever will make the dinner feel out of the ordinary. Get a delicious dessert to share and open a bottle of wine. Or, have cocktails and appetizers before you get to the main course. If you don’t feel like cooking, order takeout from a favorite restaurant. Don’t fall into routine with this one – try to make the evening different from any other night at home.
Day 10: Look through Old Photos
Take a trip down memory lane by browsing old photographs, either in albums, loose pictures, or even just photos saved to your phone or computer. Look through images from your early years of dating or marriage, reminisce on your wedding and honeymoon, or the birth of your first child. Look through photos from growing up and share stories about your childhood. This is a great chance to connect, tell stores, and revisit all the events you’ve experienced together.
Day 11: Sign Up for a Class Together or Learn Something New
Every year, Hubby and I go to the Country Living Expo together. It’s a full day of classes on farming, homesteading, and food preservation, among other things. We generally divide and conquer so we can absorb as much information as possible. We reconnect through the day, for lunch and sometimes for a shared class. Our trip home is spent sharing everything we learned and planning what we want to do with all our new-found information. Learning new things together, even though we are apart for some of it, is exciting. It brings us together for a common goal.
For this challenge, find something that interests both of you and sign up for a class at a local community college or community center. Take a cooking class, learn a foreign language, or try a new dance like salsa or ballroom – whatever strikes your fancy! If you have budget or time constraints, find a tutorial on YouTube and go from there. There are tons of great resources!
Day 12: Send a Text or Email
Sometime during the day, send a text or email to your partner. It can be funny, flirty, risque – the main thing is to let them know you’re thinking about them!
Day 13: Say Thank You
It’s easy to get caught up in the motions of a daily routine without thinking about how each person is contributing. Take some time to identify those contributions and thank your partner for their efforts. Compliment them on what they do well, and what you appreciate about them. Try to incorporate more thank yous and compliments into each day going forward!
Day 14: Discover Each Other’s Love Language
According to Gary Chapman, everyone has a primary love language that influences how they give and receive love. The five categories include physical touch, words of affirmation, acts of service, receiving gifts, and quality time. Take the online assessment available at https://www.5lovelanguages.com/ to identify which of the languages you relate to most. Then discuss the results with your partner. Share what gestures your partner already does that speaks to your love language, and provide new ideas as well. Then let your partner do the same. If you want to dive deeper, purchase or check out the book from your local library and read it together. You can get it on Amazon here.
Day 15: Cuddle Up and Watch a Movie
Spend a relaxing evening at home watching a movie and cuddling in bed or on the couch. Light a fire, make some popcorn, get your favorite movie candy, and make a night of it!
Day 16: Spend the Evening without Electricity
Pretend the power is out and light some candles. Put your cell phones away and don’t turn on the TV. Order a pizza or your favorite take out. Then, spend the evening enjoying each other’s company with no distractions. Play a game, cuddle up by the fire, read a book together, or find other creative ways to pass the time!
Day 17: Take a Bath or Shower Together
If you have time (and a large enough bath tub), share a bubble bath with your partner. Dim the lights, play soft music, light a few candles, and enjoy the intimacy of it all. If you don’t have time for a bath, hop in the shower and spend a few moments connecting before the day begins.
Day 18: Give Each Other Massages
Take turns giving each other massages. Like the challenges above, make it romantic by lighting candles, playing music, and using some scented oils. This is a great activity for those whose love language is physical touch or quality time!
Day 19: Set the Alarm 15 Minutes Early to Cuddle
Wake up 15 minutes early to cuddle rather than jumping out of bed right away to start your day. It eases you into your morning and creates closeness with your partner. Not a bad way to wake up!
Day 20: Work on a Project
Tackle a home improvement project or other task that has been needing to get done. Work together to accomplish your end goal. Not only will this create a sense of teamwork, but you’ll cross someting off your to-do list as well!
Day 21: Cook Dinner Together
Oftentimes the majority of the cooking is left to one person. Share the duties tonight by cooking dinner together. Cook something you both love, isn’t too difficult to make, and that has steps that can easily be divided. Indulge in a glass of wine or a cocktail while you cook and turn on some upbeat tunes.
Like the exercise above, this allows you to work as a team – and with a delicious result for your efforts!
Day 22: Go on a Walk
Carve some time out of your day to go for an evening stroll with your partner. Hold hands or put your arms around each other as you walk. Use the time to chat about your day and enjoy the fresh air. If you have kids, let them tag along for a whole family affair!
Day 23: Have a Couple’s Date with Friends
Call up a few close friends and schedule some time to get together for a double (or triple) date. Not only is this a fun way to catch up with friends, but it breaks up the day-to-day routine many of us fall into. Oftentimes when Hubby and I make plans to go out alone, we end up canceling our plans to stay in due to excuses such as “we’re too tired” or “it’s too much effort.” Having plans with friends holds us accountable and we always have so much fun!
Day 24: Go on an Adventure
Today’s challenge has so many possibilities! Go on a hike, head into the city, or take a day trip somewhere you’ve never been. Get in the car and just drive, or throw a dart at a map and see where it lands. Grab a die and let that determine what direction you go. Roll a 1 or 2 – go left, a 3 or 4 – go right, or a 5 or 6 – go straight. Hubby and I have done this a few times and it’s always a lot of fun. Just remember to roll in advance so you aren’t slowing down traffic or driving erratically!
Day 25: Create a Bucket List for the Year
Sit down with your partner and create a bucket list of all the things you want to do and accomplish this year. Some of them can be responsibilities and “need-to-dos” like cleaning up the yard or painting a room in the house. However, make the majority of
Day 26: Buy a Small Treat for Your Partner
Show your partner how well you know them by picking out a treat you know they will love. A small box of chocolates, a new book by their favorite author, a hot latte on a cold day – whatever you think they will enjoy the most!
Day 27: List 10 Reasons Why You Love Each Other
Grab a pen and paper and jot down 10 reasons why you love your partner. Take turns reading them aloud and expanding on what you wrote. If you’re feeling ambitious, go beyond 10 and see how many you can come up with. This exercise is a good reminder of all the things you love about each other!
Day 28: Tap Into Your Partner’s Love Language
Today is couple’s choice. With your partner’s love language in mind, find a way to show them how much you care. Repeat one of the challenges you’ve already completed, or come up with something entirely new. At the end of the day, sit down with your partner and reflect on the challenge. Did you learn anything new about each other? What challenges did you enjoy the most? Go back and determine which challenges resonated with you and find ways to incorporate them into your daily lives. Make romance a part of your every day!
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